From time to time, we have thoughts that take us away from being mindful, away from the present moment. such thoughts could be sad, they could be reflections on a past loss, reflection of why’s, on the motives behind events in our lives, a myriad of thoughts including fears of “what if this happens” – most, if not all are inconsequential to the present moment.
Now I know that it is part of life, to be uncertain of what may come, for it makes us aware of all possibilities prior to acting, but when these thoughts are just fears or they severely influence us, they have the effect of closing us down, that along with past concerns can turn us inwards towards a victim mentality, for me this new way of looking at my thoughts came from a desire that these thoughts were not empowering me, hence I needed to understand more and find a way to heal myself.
I tried this quite a while ago, it did work for me …
Each time I receive a thought that takes me to an event in the past that for instance once made me depressed or upset, or others about the future, which naturally come from an uncertainty or a fear I would thank the thought. I know may appear counter-intuitive to thank what appears to be a thought that is based on say a fear, a response from your ego, but stay with me on this.
When the thought arrives, say about a past relationship, I said to myself ..
- Thank you. I know you love me and you want to help, and in generating this, you think you are!
- But Thanks, but I am totally fine, I have this, I have learnt from the past, (or I have no fear of the future), I want to go back to the present and what is real, where I can choose to create my life.
- Again, thanks for your help, I love you, please go when you wish.
Or variations on this “conversation” over time, bring a lightness, openness and optimism to your inner chatter, and what we create within is reflected in our outer behaviours, our confidence and strength.
For me, the positive effect was that these non-present thoughts came less and less … this strategy has the real benefit by taking one out of the victims mentality, your thoughts become empowering and positive … you break through boundaries .. you heal.
If you wish to, try it … if I can help, let me know!
A Mindful Union 